How to Write the Perfect Wedding Card Message

When sharing your well-wishes on that special day, the most important thing to remember is your relationship to the newlyweds.

Think about what the couple’s interests are, how they met, their spirituality, and their plans, to get a feel for what you are going to write. Use your knowledge of the couple to craft a note that will touch their hearts.

Use the suggestions below or let them inspire you to create your own perfect wedding card. For even more inspiration for your wedding message, check out our collection of some of our favorite wedding quotes.

Formal Wedding Card Messages

• “Best wishes for a lifetime of marital bliss.”
• “May your years together be filled with love and joy.”
• “In marriage, may you experience happiness for eternity.”
• “Wishing the years ahead be filled with love and tenderness.”
• “We are honored to share this special occasion with you. May it be the beginning of a joyous life together.”
• “Wishing you joy, love, and happiness on your special day.”
• “Sharing our heartfelt desire that your vows guide you for many years to come.”
• “God bless you on this very special day, and for years to come.”

Casual Wedding Card Wishes

• “Here’s to a long and successful marriage.”
• “It’s an honor to spend this happy day with you and your family.”
• “To many wonderful years together.”
• “Best wishes always.”
• “This calls for a celebration! (And some adult beverages!)”
• “Through the years, may you become not only partners, but the best of friends.”
• “We are so happy for you and we’re proud to call you friends.”
• “Nothing could make the two of us happier, than to see the two of you together — congrats!”

For Religious or Spiritual Couples

• “Be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, like God through Jesus has forgiven you.” – Ephesians 4:32
• “Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate.” – Mark 10:9
• “Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.” – Romans 12:10
• “Let love and faithfulness never leave you. Bind them around your neck, write them on the tablet of your heart.” – Proverbs 3:3
• “Blessings and prayers on your most special day.”
• “May God bless this union for many wonderful years.”
• “Let all that you do be done in love.” – I Corinthians 16:14
• “May the energy of light and love shine on all your days.”

If You Cannot Attend

Use this guide to create your special message, then spend a few dollars to ensure that your card arrives safely and on time.

Thank the couple, but do not feel the need to apologize — your card will let them know that you are with them in spirit on their most important day.

Creating the appropriate match of relationship and voice in your card can make it a winner!

Guideline for the Tone and Style of Your Message

• Loved ones and close family members — Consider a formal and emotional note here, expressing your joy and welcoming the new member of the family.
• Son or Daughter — Make sure to share the pride you feel for your own child, and for the new loved one they have chosen as their life partner.
• Close friend — Layout the values of friendship and how excited you are to add a new friend to your list.
• Casual Friend or acquaintance — Go a little lighter here — this is not a bad place to have a bit of fun, just don’t get carried away.
• Coworker or business associate — Be sure to let them know how much you respect them, and how grateful you are to work with a true professional. Congratulate them on a great choice!

Relax and Enjoy the Process

Whew! That’s some serious stuff you’re thinking about just for a card. Step away and take a break — give yourself a pat on the back — it’s tough to try and put everything you feel into a short message.

Just remember though, the time and effort you put into the little things demonstrates the caring and character that the people in your circle can count on.

Think like a Writer When Creating Your Message

Put yourself in the mindset of Twain for a few minutes. Who knows, maybe this little wedding card, that you wouldn’t normally think much of, will stand the test of time.

Besides, the odds are you’re probably going to have other opportunities to say the things you want to share with others, so why not get good at it now!

Don’t use just any old words when you are sharing your deep feelings.  Make a list of some of your favorite “power words” to have on hand when you need ideas.

The perfect wedding card message reads like a concise but heartfelt wedding speech. The function of both is to honor the love between the newlywed couple through your own words. For some extra writing tips, check out this guide to writing a beautiful wedding speech.

A Few More Ideas to Wrap It Up

Think Beyond Their Special Day

When they read your card ten years from now on their anniversary, will your true feelings and well wishes be as clear and relatable to them as they were on their wedding day? How about fifty years from now?

Lighthearted and Sincere

You may have a chummy relationship with the groom, but not with anyone else who will read your “inside” joke. Keep your note upbeat and lighthearted, but also sincere and solemn.

Customized and Unique Card

Your handwriting is part of your personality, and you can use that to really get your thoughts across. There are some good printed cards out there, but nothing says love like a note written by hand.

It’s not as popular with all the technology today, but in this case, taking the “old fashioned” approach is your best bet.

To Sum it Up

Planning out your deep feelings and putting them into words that will move and inspire the couple-to-be and their families should be a fun and exciting part of sharing the most special day of their lives.

Take the time to care, and a simple wedding card could bring the world joy for many years to come. Who knows, maybe the new couple will save your wedding card in their wedding photo album.

Have fun and make it a habit to share your love and respect for all those in your life. Not just for weddings, but every time you get the chance.